"WINNER! Mom's Choice Gold Award for parenting books -- Mom's Choice Awards: The best in family-friendly media
""My kid is smart, but...""
It takes more than school smarts to create a fulfilling life. In fact, many bright children face special challenges:
Some are driven by perfectionism; Some are afraid of effort, because they're used to instant success; Some routinely butt heads with authority figures; Some struggle to get along with their peers; Some are outwardly successful but just don't feel good about themselves.
This practical and compassionate book explains the reasons behind these struggles and offers parents do-able strategies to help children cope with feelings, embrace learning, and build satisfying relationships. Drawing from research as well as the authors’ clinical experience, it focuses on the essential skills children need to make the most of their abilities and become capable, confident, and caring people."
By:
Eileen Kennedy-Moore,
Mark S. Lowenthal
Imprint: Jossey Bass
Country of Publication: United States
Dimensions:
Height: 226mm,
Width: 152mm,
Spine: 28mm
Weight: 363g
ISBN: 9780470640050
ISBN 10: 0470640057
Pages: 320
Publication Date: 01 February 2011
Audience:
General/trade
,
ELT Advanced
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Active
Note to the Reader ix Acknowledgments xi Introduction: Rethinking Potential 1 1 Tempering Perfectionism: What Is “Good Enough”? 10 Michael: Focusing on flaws 13 Kirsten: Deflecting blame 20 Sam: Avoiding activities at which he doesn’t excel 30 Angela: Feeling inadequate 33 2 Building Connection: How Does Your Child Reach Out to Others? 43 Andrew: Seeking an audience rather than a friend 48 Clay: Avoiding joining the group 55 Amalia: Feeling rejected by peers 63 3 Managing Sensitivity: How Does Your Child Handle Criticism, Conflict, and Disappointment? 80 Mario: Perceiving betrayal 83 Jessica: Balking at constructive feedback 90 Samir: Chafing at a change of plans 97 Collin: Shouldering the world’s woes 109 4 Handling Cooperation and Competition: How Does Your Child Fit in a Group? 118 Steven: Insisting on his way 121 Anita: Being a sore loser 130 Misha: Fearing competition 138 Craig: Dealing with competition in the family 146 5 Dealing with Authority: How Does Your Child Respond to Those in Charge? 161 Lisa: Being blind to authority 164 Nicholas: Making everything an argument 177 Stephanie: Fretting about adults’ anger 192 6 Developing Motivation: What Matters to Your Child? 200 Ethan: Avoiding schoolwork 203 Jared: Complaining that schoolwork is boring 208 Diane: Not applying herself in school 221 7 Finding Joy: What Makes Your Child Feel Happy? 238 Monica: Finding fault instead of fun 242 Conner: Searching for personal meaning 251 Conclusion: The Pressure to Perform Versus the Power to Grow 272 Selected References and Recommended Reading 277 About the Authors 291 Index 293
Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, is a child and family clinical psychologist in Princeton, New Jersey. She is the author or coauthor of several books on children's feelings and friendships. Mark S. Lowenthal, PsyD, has helped many children, teens, and their families during his twenty-two years as a clinical psychologist. His private practice is in Maplewood, New Jersey.
Reviews for Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child's True Potential
This book is a literal Godsend. Parents will find great wisdom in its pages. <br> - Stephen R. Covey, author, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People <p> A smart, deeply perceptive and important book. <br> - Wendy Mogel, PhD, author, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee <p> This book helps parents see how to encourage their children to develop as whole people with feelings, ideas, and the ability to cope with the occasional disappointment too. <br> - Roberta Michnick Golinkoff, PhD, author of Einstein Never Used Flash Cards <p> Filled with vignettes and strategies for raising smart kids to become healthy, happy and contributing adults. <br> - Vicki Abeles, Producer, Race to Nowhere
