Lola Phoenix runs the popular weekly relationship advice column and podcast, Non-Monogamy Help, and has been non-monogamous for over a decade. Their writing has appeared in Medium, Huffington Post, Pink News, Gay Star News, The Independent, and Everyday Feminism. They often give talks and presentations on relationships and LGBTQIA+ issues and have been interviewed for Attitude, Buzzfeed and The Independent, as well as podcasts such as Multiamory and the Breakup Monologues. They are the author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy, and The Non-Monogamy Journal, and are based in Stockholm, Sweden.
An incredibly thorough yet easily digestible book for any friend or family member looking to support and better understand their loved one's decision to be polyamorous! Lola's writing is engaging, non-judgmental, and educational. -- Zachary Zane, Author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto This guide to better understanding nonmonogamy and supporting your polyamorous loved one is a must-read for family members and friends who need more information and context about these styles of relating. Lola Phoenix offers kind and no-nonsense guidance I wish my family had when I told them about polyamory many years ago. -- Laura Boyle, relationship coach and author of Monogamy? In This Economy?? Beautifully balances an affirming stance to diverse relationship styles with an honest exploration of the challenges that come with relating outside the norm. Contains all the information those who are unfamiliar with non-monogamy need, presented in an accessible and engaging way with lots of helpful examples. It also addresses all the common questions friends and family have, answering these clearly and with compassion and wisdom around the understandable fears that generally underlie people's concerns. A spot on template for how we might support the people we love in their relationships and in general. -- Meg-John Barker, author of How To Understand Your Relationships