Releasing Your Need to Please: Escaping Romantic Relationships with Narcissistic Women

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James Butler

Releasing Your Need to Please

Escaping Romantic Relationships with Narcissistic Women

James Butler

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Wood Dragon Books
07 December 2023

Violence in society; Domestic violence; Family psychology; Psychotherapy; Coping with personal problems

Narcissism in romantic relationships is often understood to be gender specific-with the man perpetrating the abuse and the woman on the receiving end. While this is certainly the case in many instances, Releasing Your Need to Please is written to explore the growing phenomenon of women who perpetrate narcissistic abuse-and the men who try to please them.

Narcissism is a disorder that stems from childhood trauma. A narcissistic female (a girlfriend or wife) is an extremely wounded personality who, at her core, feels empty, powerless, unlovable, and entitled. In order to soothe her deep insecurities and aching needfulness, she requires a love partner to make her feel better about herself. A narcissistic woman sees her partner as a means to an end-an external source of validation and love-to fill her emptiness and internal feelings of powerlessness.

Given their self-absorbed nature, narcissistic women always attract a specific personality type-people pleasers. Pleasers, too, have childhood trauma and low self-esteem in romantic relationships, and as a result, bend over backwards to make their narcissistic counterpart happy. Often compromising themselves to gain approval (or stop the abuse), pleasers lose themselves in the process-and end up living a false, inauthentic life. Putting their feelings and needs on the back burner, they internalize the anger and manipulation of their mate. By the time male partners seek counselling, they are exhausted-second-guessing themselves-and feeling as though they might be going crazy. Some do not recognize the control and manipulation they are experiencing. Others know they are being abused, yet do not wish to do anything productive about it. Yet all pleasers feel trapped inside the abusive relationship-often feeling too weak or defeated to make any changes.

Staying with a narcissistic woman is the result of the pleaser's low self-esteem and unresolved childhood trauma. Pleasers are terrified to make the courageous decision to separate-and doubt they have the strength to stay away. Hence, they seek to fix the abusive relationship by accepting responsibility for the abuse. While pleasers justify staying in the relationship, they lose themselves in the process.

Throughout the book, the message is clear. While the pleaser has been victimized by narcissistic abuse, he can choose to see himself as a victim without choice-or choose to empower himself, develop self-esteem, and permanently escape. Releasing Your Need to Please teaches the reader how to put himself first-by learning to like, trust, and respect himself. This process begins with accepting he has no other reasonable choice-but to escape his chains of abuse.

This book will take the reader on a courageous, empowering, and rewarding journey-and help him gradually (and powerfully) release himself from his own chains (his need to please)-while, at the same time, break his mate's chains of control, anger, manipulation, and exploitation.

By: James Butler
Imprint: Wood Dragon Books
Dimensions: Height: 229mm, Width: 152mm, Spine: 13mm
Weight: 336g
ISBN: 9781990863301
ISBN 10: 1990863302
Pages: 248
Publication Date: 07 December 2023
Audience: General/trade , ELT Advanced
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Active

Jim Butler has served as a licensed, registered counsellor in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada for over 19 years. His emphasis is on individual, couple, and family counselling. In those 19 years, Jim has become a trusted authority on personal growth/transformation, verbal and emotional abuse counselling and prevention, as well as proactive relationship coaching.

Reviews for Releasing Your Need to Please: Escaping Romantic Relationships with Narcissistic Women

This book offers practical tools for men facing unhealthy power dynamics in their intimate relationships. Most powerfully, the book offers a practical toolkit for escaping relationships that are hurtful rather than loving. (Kathleen Thompson, PhD, MSW, RSW, Co-Chair, National Mental Health Inclusion Network) Every adult man on the planet, regardless of age or relationship status, should read this book. In reading this book, I was struck by the mental obstacles men needed to tackle to break free. What had always seemed like a simple course of action ... just leave ... was actually a complex maze of self-doubt and fear of the unknown to be faced head on-and overcome-before any movement to break free could be contemplated. (Colleen Smith, Business and Community Leader) A powerful and thought-provoking book on developing self-esteem and the skills needed to escape toxic or emotionally abusive relationships. A must-read for anyone seeking to address dysfunction and pervasively negative patterns in their romantic relationship; they might just find the peace they've been longing for. The book shines a light on a different way of thinking that could have an invaluable ripple-effect on their decisions moving forward. (Lisa Nagy, BA, BSW, MSW) The reality of emotionally abusive relationships is clearly laid out in this book. Jim encourages a position of accountability and asserts that pleasers are not victims in their toxic relationships. This book clearly explains why pleasers and narcissists attract and remain locked in a dance where they both exhaust and damage each other. A must-read for anyone who is having trouble recognizing manipulation and understanding the dangers of their constant need to please. (Adelle Teneke, BA, BSW, MSW) This book challenges you to think, reflect, and provides a road-map out of emotionally abusive relationships. Packaged with an edge to it, this book is thought-provoking, powerful, and provides a unique perspective regarding co-dependency and the toxic relationship cycle. It will help guide individuals with pleasing tendencies to develop self-worth and strength in order to take the next step. (Susan Krafchuk, BA, BSW, RSW)