Ask Me How It Works

Love in an Open Marriage

Deepa Paul

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Viking
06 May 2025

Biography; Memoirs; Sociology: family & relationships; Dating, relationships, living together & marriage

A beautiful, vibrant and surprising memoir about love, desire and marriage . . . one question at a time.

In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam, Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend's bed. She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home, where she is welcomed into the arms of her husband, whose contentment is mellow alongside her own. There isn't a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible - even if it wasn't always this easy.

You might have questions. Whose idea was it? What are the rules? Are you ever jealous? In this memoir, Deepa offers her answers openly and tenderly, as she explores the truth to questions of her own. Can I ask for what I want, and still honour the life I have chosen? Do I deserve it? Is it worth it?

Unexpectedly relatable and joyfully vibrant, this is one woman's story of discovering her own desires and how to liberate them, of shifting identities from mother to lover and back again, and of finding the courage to ask for the marriage she wanted, beyond the marriage she had.

One question at a time.

By: Deepa Paul
Imprint: Viking
Country of Publication: United Kingdom
Dimensions: Height: 234mm, Width: 155mm, Spine: 30mm
Weight: 489g
ISBN: 9780241698402
ISBN 10: 0241698405
Pages: 400
Publication Date: 06 May 2025
Audience: General/trade , College/higher education , Professional and scholarly , ELT Advanced , Primary
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Active

Deepa Paul is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam. Her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventurer, and herself - all at the same time.

Reviews for Ask Me How It Works: Love in an Open Marriage

A wonderfully honest and liberating memoir -- Julia Samuel A generous-spirited, imaginative exploration of how to live life differently -- Rebecca Wait A spectacular memoir written with verve and style, connecting our sexual freedom in the here and now to rich multi faceted ancestry, painting vivid hopes of expansive futures where we may all create the unique families that hold us in an abundance of love -- Nana Darkoa