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A Memoir of Daring to Love Differently

Deepa Paul

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English
Penguin Books Ltd
28 July 2026
A beautiful, vibrant and surprising memoir about love, desire and marriage . . . one question at a time.

In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam, Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend's bed. She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home, where she is welcomed into the arms of her husband, whose contentment is mellow alongside her own. There isn't a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible - even if it wasn't always this easy.

You might have questions. Whose idea was it? What are the rules? Are you ever jealous? In this memoir, Deepa offers her answers openly and tenderly, as she explores the truth to questions of her own. Can I ask for what I want, and still honour the life I have chosen? Do I deserve it? Is it worth it?

Unexpectedly relatable and joyfully vibrant, this is one woman's story of discovering her own desires and how to liberate them, of shifting identities from mother to lover and back again, and of finding the courage to ask for the marriage she wanted, beyond the marriage she had.

One question at a time.
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Imprint:   Penguin Books Ltd
Country of Publication:   United Kingdom
Dimensions:   Height: 198mm,  Width: 129mm,  Spine: 35mm
Weight:   500g
ISBN:   9781405966719
ISBN 10:   1405966718
Pages:   400
Publication Date:  
Audience:   General/trade ,  ELT Advanced
Format:   Paperback
Publisher's Status:   Forthcoming

Deepa Paul is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam. Her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventurer, and herself - all at the same time.

Reviews for Ask Me: A Memoir of Daring to Love Differently

Deepa is the epitome of a woman living in her power. Ask Me How It Works provides a stunningly vulnerable and poetic glimpse into her most intimate spaces and through her journey to sexual liberation. If this book doesn’t change your perspective on relationships, nothing will -- Gillian Anderson Deepa is the epitome of a woman living in her power. Ask Me provides a stunningly vulnerable and poetic glimpse into her most intimate spaces and through her journey to sexual liberation. If this book doesn’t change your perspective on relationships, nothing will -- Gillian Anderson A fascinating and big-hearted portrait of sex, intimacy and non-monogamy -- Clover Stroud A fascinating and big-hearted portrait of sex, intimacy and non-monogamy -- Clover Stroud A singingly honest, live-wire of a memoir. Reads like a long-overdue conversation with an old friend, will leave you thrilled and humming with possibility -- Yael van der Wouden A singingly honest, live-wire of a memoir. Reads like a long-overdue conversation with an old friend, will leave you thrilled and humming with possibility -- Yael van der Wouden A spectacular memoir written with verve and style -- Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah A spectacular memoir written with verve and style -- Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah A generous-spirited, imaginative exploration of how to live life differently -- Rebecca Wait, author of I’m Sorry You Feel That Way A generous-spirited, imaginative exploration of how to live life differently -- Rebecca Wait, author of I’m Sorry You Feel That Way


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