With Sprinkles on Top

"""With Sprinkles on Top is an essential read for partners who are having trouble connecting because they have different fantasies and desires. Stefani Goerlich weaves together research, clinical insight, and practical tips in an accessible and affirming style. Readers will walk away with the tools they need to explore their sexuality and cultivate more satisfying intimate relationships."" --Justin J. Lehmiller, PhD, host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, author of Tell Me What You Want ""At a time where kink is becoming more mainstream, this text should be in the hands of everyone who is in kink, kink aware, or kink adjacent. Stefani Goerlich's tactful offering is easily digestible and will help readers feel more informed, more understood, and more reflective of the person they are and who they want to become. With Sprinkles on Top is an excellent resource with compelling content that will be relevant for many years to come. Goerlich's expertise and brilliance shines vividly as a well-respected clinician in this field."" --Marla Renee Stewart, sexologist ""With Sprinkles on Top is for everyone who has ever wondered if they, or their partner, was a pervert. Most of us have sexual desires we're afraid to share for fear of rejection. Goerlich's newest book offers concerned readers the most important possible message: 'You're ordinary.' Even those of us with diverse sexual interests are, at the end of the day, ordinary people. Along the way, you'll learn critical skills and techniques on how to ethically and responsibly integrate your honest sexual desires into your relationship with respect, dignity, and mutuality."" --David J. Ley, PhD, author of Ethical Porn for Dicks ""This book is far more than the average BDSM how-to! With Sprinkles on Top is an invaluable resource for couples nervous about kink but eager to explore the intimacy and trust it brings. With a disarming and empathetic approach, Stefani Goerlich guides readers through custom-crafting intentional, mutually fulfilling erotic experiences while challenging bias and shame with compassion. Packed with science-backed facts, exercises, and real-world vignettes, Goerlich reframes kink for what it truly is: joyous play, adventurous self-exploration, and a path to deep connection. Whether you're looking to add a little spice or navigate the complexities of coming out kinky to a vanilla partner, this transformative guide provides the tools you need to move forward with authenticity and curiosity."" --Sunny Megatron, sexologist, host of the Showtime Original series Sex with Sunny Megatron ""With Sprinkles on Top is a must-read--in fact, a positive game changer--for anyone in a couple in which one partner identifies as kinky and the other as vanilla or simply uncertain if kink is for them. This engaging and easy-to-read book, full of relatable quotes and stories, is based in both science and the clinical wisdom of one of the most experienced sex therapists in the field. Throughout the book, Dr. Goerlich's genuine compassion shines through as she guides readers to a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners. With Sprinkles on Top is a road map that will lead kinky people and their vanilla partners to be more understanding of one another and closer than ever before."" --Laurie Mintz, PhD, author of A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate ""You scream, I scream, we all scream for... Stefani Goerlich! She shows us that 'being vanilla' isn't boring and bland, it's sexy and exciting! With Sprinkles on Top is the best book on understanding and navigating the world of kink that I've ever read."" --Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First"