The Way We Never Were

Los Angeles Times A treasure... Coontz's ample evidence exposes the falseness, sentimentality and self-righteousness of most public statements about the family. New York Times Book Review Often brilliant and invariably provocative. Minneapolis Star Tribune [The Way We Never Were is] one of the few books I've carried with me through years and moves -- because it's a welcome and hopeful reminder that families always have faced, and overcome, transitions and challenges. In the revised book, Coontz offers an equally honest and upbeat review of the way things really are, despite dire predictions of a culture in crisis. The Oklahoman David West is getting close to finishing another book. That's not some sort of metaphor. The NBA veteran is a voracious reader, almost always carrying his latest book on a team plane or his electronic tablet into the locker room. For the past few weeks, he's been immersed in a book by social historian Stephanie Coontz. It's called The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap. The book is about shattering myths. So is David West. Jonathan Yardley, Washington Post Book World [Coontz] approaches the subject of what we now insist up on calling 'family values' with what is, in the current atmosphere, a refreshing lack of partisan cant. The National Memo Stephanie Coontz's 1992 book was a work of first-rate history, and it undermined a slew of common misperceptions of family life in America, but it was also a plea to take off the rose-colored glasses that cause us to get so many political issues wrong. Fittingly, Coontz's publisher, Basic Books, has released a revised edition just as the moralizing we've come to expect from presidential campaigns kicks into overdrive. Romper If you've ever questioned whether the 'Good Old Days' were really all that good, The Way We Never Were is worth a read. [Coontz] puts 'traditional family values' in a historical context and examines whether or not the idea was realistic. It will make you glad we don't have to vacuum in heels anymore. Ellen Galinsky, President, Families and Work Institute Stephanie Coontz is a national treasure. Her work, always solidly grounded in the best and most comprehensive research, is consistently groundbreaking. She changes the way we understand the past, present, and the future. What's more, her new paradigms change the way we live and work! Paula England, 2015-15 President, American Sociological Association Stephanie Coontz has her finger on the pulse of contemporary families like no one else in America. In this book, she busts numerous myths about families in the past and clearly explains what is going on in today's families. William H. Chafe, Alice Mary Baldwin Professor of History, Duke University, the former president, Organization of American Historians More than twenty years ago, in The Way We Never Were, Stephanie Coontz cut through all the bizarre stereotypes we carry with us about marriage and the family in America. Now, in a brilliant revision, she jolts us once again by bringing us up to date on when people marry, how income inequality affects family life, and why we have made so much progress on issues of gay marriage, and so little on issues of poverty and women's reproductive rights. A terrific read with amazing new information! Newsday Coontz presents fascinating facts and figures that explode the cherished myths about self-sufficient, happy, moral families. The Nation Historically rich, and loaded with anecdotal evidence, The Way We Never Were effectively demolishes the normal, traditional nuclear family as neither normal nor traditional, and not even nuclear. Publishers Weekly A wonderfully perceptive, myth-debunking report... An important contribution to the current debate on family values. Kirkus Clear, incisive, and distinguished by Coontz's personal conviction and by its vast range of cogent examples, including capsule histories of women in the labor force and of black families. Fascinating, persuasive, politically relevant. Frank Furstenberg, Zellerbach Family Professor of Sociology, Emeritus, University of Pennsylvania This small book has had an outsized influence on the way social scientists think about the recent history of the American family. It remains the starting point for anyone who hopes to understand how contemporary family life came about and where we may be headed in the future. Linda Burton, Dean of Social Sciences and James B. Duke Professor of Sociology, Duke University There is no better commentary on the status and processes of American families than The Way We Never Were. Stephanie Coontz writes about the realities of family life in an uncompromising way that integrates evidence-based research with the souls and everyday lives of kin within and across generations and across time and space. In my family sociology courses a spontaneous awakening occurs for students who read this book for the first time. They never look at families the same way, which is a game changer as they consider family life in their futures and question the meaning of families in their present lives. Stephanie Coontz has given the field a true gift that guides us in a journey of understanding the evolution of family life in real time and under real circumstances. Illuminating, provocative, and a must read for all! Steven Mintz, Professor of History, University of Texas at Austin A powerful antidote to the misleading myths and misplaced nostalgia that too often dominate discussions of family life, this essential book tells the true history of today's extraordinarily diverse families. Drawing upon the most recent research, the nation's foremost historian of marriage explains why family life changed so radically in the course of a single generation, presenting a remarkably balanced perspective on the losses and gains that have accompanied this revolution. San Francisco Chronicle Coontz's strength is in the way she shows that families of every era have been blamed for conditions beyond their control. Library Journal [Coontz] persuasively dispels the myths and stereotypes of 'traditional' family values as the product of the postwar era.