The Therapist’s Use of Self

"“This book had me at the start; the analysis of the family therapy pioneers was the best I’d ever read. But then Selekman takes it a quantum leap further—capturing the true essence of conceptualizing and doing couple and family therapy, drawing on contemporary research and his own wisdom accrued from extensive experience in the trenches.” Barry L. Duncan, Psy.D., developer of the Partners for Change Outcome Management System, USA ""Selekman has done it again. A book for any practitioner, chock-full of wisdom, guidance and encouragement to be more of ourselves as a therapist. After an affectionate review of the old masters of family therapy, Selekman gives us a creative and wide-ranging set of ideas to help us become more courageous as therapists. An aspiring read!"" Guy Diamond, Professor Emeritus, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine, USA ""Matthew Selekman’s brilliant new book about the therapist’s use of self is exactly the book the field of relational and systemic therapies needs at this time. Wonderfully anchored in and appropriately paying homage to the pioneers of the field, Selekman provides the reader with a much-needed update of how to be most positively engaged and effective in these times. Building on a clear vision of the use of self in therapy that includes a very practical use-of-self toolkit, he offers inventive frameworks for therapeutic decision-making and ways of collaborating with clients to find innovative ways to resolve problems. Filled with poignant clinical examples and the wisdom of a seasoned therapist who has supervised couple and family therapy around the world, this is a book every couple and family therapist and student in the field should read and contemplate."" Jay Lebow, Ph.D., ABPP, Senior Scholar and Clinical Professor, The Family Institute at Northwestern and Northwestern University, USA ""As I began reading the first two chapters, my experience was of a travel along a memory lane, remembering the workshops and seminars I had the opportunity to enjoy with those incredible persons. By chapter four I was more on the transition to present time. Then I remember the time machine exercise Selekman uses. And of course, the next chapters moved me to the future use of his exercises. (And in there you’ll find the time machine) Definitely a very good book. From past, to present, to future use."" Ricardo Figueroa Quiroga, President: Mexican Council for Clinical Hypnosis, Mexico"