Kim Lee is a psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience helping clients work through difficulties with relationships and break-downs in communication, including issues of trust and infidelity. Along with her husband, she is also a swinger, a secret unknown to even her children or closest friends.
In this memoir, Kim Lee takes readers inside the secret society of swingers, also known as ""the lifestyle."" Sex plays a dominant role, but the book's focus is also on human connection and relationships beyond sex. She shares the difficulty of working through her husband's affair and navigating relationship issues that both swingers and non-swingers commonly face. Lee invites the reader to learn from her mistakes and see how to better safeguard their own relationship, regardless of niche lifestyle choice. While marriage is imperfect and hard, she demonstrates that it can also be vibrant, healthy, and even sexy, if both partners put in the work and communicate honestly with each other.
By:
Kim Lee
Imprint: McFarland & Co Inc
Country of Publication: United States
Dimensions:
Height: 229mm,
Width: 152mm,
Spine: 13mm
Weight: 354g
ISBN: 9781476694238
ISBN 10: 1476694230
Pages: 261
Publication Date: 16 October 2023
Recommended Age: From 18 years
Audience:
General/trade
,
ELT Advanced
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Active
Table of Contents Acknowledgments Author’s Note Prologue: 2015 1. Family Ties 2. Love at Last 3. Four-Year Itch 4. Weekend Get-Away 5. New Church Friends 6. First Foursome Experience 7. Trouble in Paradise 8. Meet the Neighbors 9. Women’s Retreat 10. Our Little Secret 11. Downtown Hotel Night 12. What Annie Wants, Annie Gets 13. Even the Score 14. What About Us? 15. Vegas Weekend 16. My BFF 17. Red Flags 18. Give an Inch, Take a Mile 19. Second Vegas Trip 20. Blurred Boundaries 21. Surprise Birthday Party 22. Sex and Lies 23. The Breakup 24. I Was a Fool 25. The Affair 26. Fight or Flight? 27. The Aftermath 28. A Fresh Start 29. Lifestyle 2.0 30. Communication 101 31. Unfinished Business 32. My Emotional Affair 33. Day of Reckoning 34. Dr. David Epilogue Appendix: Swinging 101 Primer Further Reading Index
Kim Lee is a practicing psychotherapist and an active lifestyle participant. With over 20 years of experience, she offers counselling to adults dealing with a range of issues, including relationship difficulties, infidelity/trust, family conflict, anxiety, and depression. She maintains a full-time practice in Toronto, Ontario.
Reviews for The Swinger in the Mirror: My Secret Life
""It was EXCELLENT! Swinger in the Mirror is part steamy sex novel, part emotional evolution memoir. As someone outside the lifestyle, I was impressed by how so many of Kim's inner thoughts felt relevant.""--Meredith Hackwith Edwards, host of Meredith for Real: The Curious Introvert ""It was EXCELLENT! Swinger in the Mirror is part steamy sex novel, part emotional evolution memoir. As someone outside the lifestyle, I was impressed by how so many of Kim's inner thoughts felt relevant.""-Meredith Hackwith Edwards, host of Meredith for Real: The Curious Introvert
