Only Human

In praise of Breaking Up Blues:A guide to survival and growth (Routledge, 2008): `This is the kind of thing that givesã psychoanalysis a good name...full of that kind of concrete but gradual, hard earnedã human growth.ã The basic premise - that there are no easy routes or short-cuts, is so heartening to read, in a world where that's all people lookã for.ã You really faced the human condition, and in doing soã empowered your readers.' --Steve Biddulph, author, Raising Boys; Manhood `unique in its combination of depth and accessibility. It deserves to be a classic.' -Margot Waddell, Tavistock Clinic `this is a book that lives and breathes for ... those looking for practical help in the middle of marital disarray ... a beacon of understanding at what are often some very dark moments ... jargon-free' --Anthony Cantle, B J Psychotherapy `compelling authority and depth that grabs the attention of the reader from the outset ... hugely helpful... it left me feeling hopeful' --Christopher Vincent, B J Fam Therapy `The author teases out all the tangled threads of feeling, and once disentangled they seem less frightening, enabling the overwhelmed confused person to feel that he/she is a sane person who is upset and caught up in a process, rather than a crazy person who is trapped and not understood. I wish I'd had your book thirty years ago' --Dr Gill Flower, Amazon.co.uk review `She writes with a kind of controlled urgency... . I kept almost hearing this, an echo of off-page laughter, and a sure sign of wisdom... The book never talks down to the reader: its talkative register, and a complete absence of evasiveness in the advice, means that the person addressing you may be terse, funny, sometimes brusque - but can be trusted.... It's terrific.' --Jim Pye, Oxford Psychotherapy Society Bulletin ` If you are in an unsatisfactory relationship - or if you've already broken up and you're unhappy about it - then this book will not only make you feel better, it will help you avoid making the same mistakes again.'--Jonathan Self, author, Self Abuse `The reader is taken with immense empathy from devastation to personal growth, whilst every aspect is addressed, never hesitating to challenge and reality test opinions and beliefs .. I would not hesitate to recommend it to clients'--Jenny Bloomer, Therapy Today `rich psychological insights are expressed in a refreshingly direct and accessible way' --Journal of Analytical Psychology, (54) 2009 `Highly recommended' --Judith Wallerstein, author The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce 'A wise and practical book' --Dorothy Rowe `Excellent' --Bel Mooney `It was such a riveting book with so much information that had to read it a bit at a time. I had sever aha moments and even laughed out loud. I started to 'mark' the book with pertenent passages and then I realized I was 'totally' marking it.' --Nancy J. Shepherd, Amazon.com review this is a self-help book with a difference... unique in its comprehensiveness. --Joan Wexler, JAPA