5.0 out of 5 stars. less flex, more reflect Reviewed in the United States on September 22, 2025 A thoughtful and practical book that challenges the ""tough guy"" myth and replaces it with a healthier model of strength: resilience, emotional awareness, and stillness. The book takes on the stereotype of the unbreakable man and shows why suppressing emotions is harmful, especially in midlife. Instead, it introduces a model of strength plus stillness where grit is balanced with reflection, emotional awareness, and healthier coping habits. Chapters cover topics like stress and anxiety, depression in men, relationships, career transitions, and even the role of therapy. I liked how each chapter mixes stories, clear explanations, and practical takeaways like journaling, breathwork, or short ""emotional hygiene"" routines you can actually fit into a busy day. It normalizes therapy as a form of tactical self-mastery rather than weakness, which feels like a big shift. The overall tone is calm and supportive, not preachy. Even if you're just curious about men's mental health, it gives a useful window into the challenges and opportunities men face after 40. Who it's for - Men over 40 looking to build resilience and emotional clarity - Partners, family, or friends wanting insight into men's midlife challenges - Readers who prefer practical habits and stories over heavy clinical jargon Who it's not for - Those seeking a strictly academic or medical text - Anyone looking for a quick-fix ""self-help hack"" as it's more about steady, sustainable practices 5.0 out of 5 stars. Something every dad over 40 should read Reviewed in the United States on September 24, 2025 I am a 43-year-old man. To say emotional control is a must at this age is an understatement. I like any book focused on men's mental health that doesn't require you to be a robot. This one takes a more stoic approach, but also incorporates the concepts of grit and how irritability can signal other underlying emotions that we all need to manage better. Everything is set against real-life examples that definitely resonate with me and likely most of my social group at this age. A great read.