Securing Sexuality

""Timely and non-alarmist, Securing Sexuality demystifies the complex intersection of intimacy, technology, and personal safety. Blending sex therapy, cybersecurity, and cultural insight, Stefani and Wolf Goerlich offer a much-needed roadmap for understanding and developing our own personal risk framework—empowering us to reclaim and protect our digital identity in an increasingly connected world. Essential for clinicians, technologists, and anyone navigating modern relationships, this book will equip you to become a safer, more informed digital sexual citizen."" Simon Dubé, PhD, Research Fellow, Kinsey Institute; Affiliate Professor, UQAM Department of Sexology ""Most cybersecurity advice treats human sexual behavior like it’s irrelevant or a terms-of-service violation, and most sex education pretends technology is optional instead of a major part of intimate relationships. Stefani and Wolfgang Goerlich finally connect the two sides of human behavior around computers and show that this dichotomy is not only false, but dangerous to the most vulnerable people in society. I’m so grateful to them for having connected the right to digital privacy with a useful strategy to achieve it. These are the tools you need to enable you to use tech as a whole person while preserving your dignity and agency. Bravo."" Tarah Wheeler, CEO & Founder Red Queen Dynamics"" ""This book is an approachable and sex-positive survey of the areas in which sex and technology have overlapped over recent years. At a time when support workers are overwhelmed and lawmakers are pushing for increasingly puritanical solutions policing sexuality online, it is refreshing to read a book as pragmatic, human-centered, and candid as this one."" Eva Galperin, Director of Cybersecurity, Electronic Frontier Foundation ""One hacker + one sex therapist = a deeper dive than you can imagine into the ways sex tech has snaked its way through our lives. In my field it's common to recognize that 'anything that can be used for sexual purposes, will'--and Stefani and Wolfgang Goerlich illustrate that with the most thorough journey imaginable, from the caves to tomorrow, with deep dives into the history (and current tech and social implications) of all kinds of sexual issues that, one way or another, are relevant to almost everybody. Think finding community, dating, toys, entertainment, privacy, censorship, and more. Every page offers insight into our past and peepholes into the future. Look, I know Artificial Intelligence is all over the news (and everything else) these days. But before you succumb, read this book--and partake of deeply informed info from a duo and a community that specializes in fierce and fearless human intelligence. As Wolf and Stefani conclude, 'The complex problems covered in this book demand interdisciplinary thinking': just what one hacker + one sex therapist can deliver. Sharing the planet with these two gives me hope."" Carol Queen, PhD, Sexologist and Curator of the Good Vibes Antique Vibrator Museum, San Francisco