Being “nice” is not the same as being good—and it’s costing men their confidence, relationships, and purpose.
In Be a Good Man, Not a Nice Guy, author, speaker, and modern masculinity advocate Kelvin Davis challenges the outdated idea that men have to be passive, agreeable, and approval-seeking to be accepted—especially in love and life. This book is a wake-up call for men who are tired of being overlooked, misunderstood, or emotionally disconnected because they’ve been told to play it safe.
Through honest storytelling, cultural insight, and actionable tools, Davis guides readers through the transformation from a “nice guy” who performs to be liked…into a good man who leads with truth, character, and emotional strength.
This is not a book about being macho or dominant—it’s about being real, grounded, and responsible. Whether you’re navigating relationships, fatherhood, or personal growth, this book helps you reconnect with your core values and redefine what it means to be a man in today’s world.
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Who It’s For:
Men who feel stuck in relationships where they can’t be fully themselves Readers seeking emotional maturity and purpose-driven masculinity Women wanting to understand the inner world of the “nice guy” Coaches, therapists, and educators guiding men through personal growth
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You’ll Learn:
Why being “nice” is often a mask for fear and insecurity How to set boundaries without guilt What healthy masculinity actually looks like How to stop people-pleasing and start self-leading The habits of emotionally intelligent, grounded men
By:
Kelvin Davis
Imprint: Turner Publishing Company
Country of Publication: United States
Dimensions:
Height: 216mm,
Width: 140mm,
Spine: 25mm
ISBN: 9798887981062
Pages: 208
Publication Date: 19 February 2026
Audience:
General/trade
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ELT Advanced
Format: Hardback
Publisher's Status: Active
Introduction Good Man: Security, Safety & Sanity Chapter 1: Nice Guy, Bad Marriage Chapter 2: Self Control & Confidence Chapter 3: Learn From Losses Good Man: Education, Environment & Empathy Chapter 4: You’re The Problem Chapter 5: Know Means No Chapter 6: Good Men Do Good Shit 3 Currencies Of Life: Time, Money & Health Good Man: Providing, Protecting & Patience Chapter 7: Iron Sharpens Iron Chapter 8: Nice Guys Finish Last Chapter 9: Frustrated Father Good Man: Habits, Hobbies & Happiness Chapter 10: Go To Health Chapter 11: Good Man, Great Marriage Chapter 12: Faith Over Fear Forgiven Not Forsaken (A letter to my mom & dad)
Kelvin Davis is the founder and creator of Notoriously Dapper, a body positive menswear blog showcasing outfits to inspire men of all sizes to find confidence in their appearance. Kelvin has been featured in major media outlets such as The New York Times, The Daily Mail, and The New York Post, and he has modeled for Target, GAP, Vineyard Vines, and more. His first book, Notoriously Dapper: How to be a Modern Gentleman with Manners, Style and Body Confidence, was nominated for the 2018 NAACP Image Award.
Reviews for Be a Good Man, Not a Nice Guy: A Guide to True Masculinity
Praise for Kelvin Davis's Notoriously Dapper “Out of everyone, we're most in love with Kelvin Davis of Notoriously Dapper.” —Glamour Magazine “Body positivity and some welcome diversity.” —Cosmopolitan
- Nominated for NAACP Image Award 2018 (United States)
