How to Do Consent (without Sounding Like a Robot): Learning Boundaries, Navigating Discomfort, and Getting...

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Mia Schachter

How to Do Consent (without Sounding Like a Robot)

Name: How to Do Consent (without Sounding Like a Robot)
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Learning Boundaries, Navigating Discomfort, and Getting to Know What You Really Want

Mia Schachter

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North Atlantic Books,U.S.
15 September 2026

Family & health

Essential, up-to-date guidance on consent and sex for anyone who’s having it—and everyone who wants to do it better.

Empowered practices, embodied skills, and frame-changing advice for navigating consent, pursuing pleasure, and building connection in the real world.

Part practical guide, part cultural critique, this book offers braver, more creative, and more empowered visions of what sex can (and should) be. Essential reading for anyone having sex in the 21st century, How to Do Consent moves the conversation past stale and rigid assumptions toward one rooted in connection, fulfillment, and self-discovery.

Timely, provocative, real-world, and affirming, Schachter’s work dispels misconceptions like:

“Consent can be done perfectly”: When in practice, it’s relative, subjective, fluid, and interpersonal—there’s no one right way to do it. “If you can’t talk about sex, you shouldn’t be having it”: Abstinence lite is unrealistic; talking about sex requires experience, trial, and error. “Consent will save us”: Consent is a harm-reduction strategy, not a panacea. “Enthusiasm is a requirement for consensual sex”: Utterly unenthusiastic but totally consensual sex happens all the time. It’s fine! “Consent is something that men do for women”: It’s a shared, communal responsibility—and anyone of any gender can violate another’s’ boundaries. “Sexuality is always innate and unchangeable”: While honoring the reality that many are “born this way,” Schachter shares how their own desires and sexuality have been both fluid and actively sculpted.

Grounded in Schachter’s work as an intimacy coordinator and consent educator—and informed by insights from sex workers, therapists, kink practitioners, and community leaders—How to Do Consent (Without Sounding Like a Robot) offers a provocative and bitingly funny alternative to the myths and practices that keep us silent, confused, anxious, and disconnected—and that hold us back from asking for (and discovering) what we really want.

By: Mia Schachter
Imprint: North Atlantic Books,U.S.
Country of Publication: United States
Dimensions: Height: 229mm, Width: 152mm,
Weight: 369g
ISBN: 9798889843665
Pages: 256
Publication Date: 15 September 2026
Audience: General/trade , ELT Advanced
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Forthcoming

Mia Schachter (they/them) is a writer, consent educator, and intimacy coordinator based in Los Angeles. A queer, millennial artist and philosopher, they are the creator of Consent Wizardry, an online consent school serving over a thousand students seeking more easeful relationships, clearer boundaries, and authentic self-expression. Mia is Tinder’s Resident Consent Educator and has taught and spoken for organizations including Planned Parenthood, XBiz, and the Directors Guild’s Women’s Steering Committee. They are the author of Boundaries & Consent: A Workbook and Boundaries + Consent for People Pleasers. Drawing on a background in philosophy, gender studies, ethics, and neuroscience—as well as their lived experience with chronic illness—Schachter explores consent as a creative, anti-carceral practice that links body, desire, and imagination.