Matt Bays is a speaker, life coach, and author known for his nationally released memoir Finding God in the Ruins and his debut LGBTQ memoir Leather & Lace. Both his writing and music have appeared in HuffPost, The Advocate, and Out Magazine. Through his compelling podcast, How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, Matt empowers gay men seeking meaningful connection. Often compared to writers like Glennon Doyle and Anne Lamott, Matt brings readers a voice that is honest, raw, funny, and deeply compassionate. His unique perspective inspires authenticity and courage for the journey of life. Originally from the U.S., Matt now lives in Porto, Portugal, with his husband, Chris. Connect with him on Instagram: @mattbayswriter.
""Equal parts wisdom and WTF--this isn't just a dating book. It's a mirror, a megaphone, and a whole damn mood for anyone serious about finding real love. Matt Bays spills the tea, throws some shade, and still manages to serve up real advice that hits where it counts. Whether you're single, partnered, or just figuring it all out, this flirty, fierce, and full-of-heart guide is like your gay best friend in hardcover--ready to tell you the truth and cheer you on every step of the way."" -- Stefan Arestis, of the Nomadic Boys travel blog and co-author of Out in the World: The Gay Guide to Travelling with Pride ""Looking for--and holding onto--love doesn't have to be a nightmare. Matt Bays' hilarious, heartfelt, and road-tested tips are all you need to successfully make the journey from hopelessly horny to happy husband."" -- Noah Michelson, Director of HuffPost Personal and Co-host of HuffPost's Am I Doing It Wrong? podcast ""Matt Bays is a gift, and How to Find and Keep a Gay Man is essential reading for any gay single navigating the fierce, fabulous, and often fraught world of modern dating. With practical insights, hilarious anecdotes, and the gentle tone of a trusted friend, this book offers a compassionate guide to building healthier, more fulfilling relationships."" -- S Rev. Brandan Robertson, Author, Queer & Christian: Reclaiming the Bible, Our Faith, and Our Place at the Table