Born to Win

"Born To Win1. Winners And Losers Winners Losers Tools for Change Frederick Perls and Gestalt Therapy Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis Summary Experiments and Exercises Trait Checklist Winner/Loser Continuum Role-Playing an Inner Dialogue 2. An Overview Of Transactional Analysis Introduction to Structural Analysis Development of Ego States Introduction to Analyzing Transactions The Games People Play Days of Decision Psychological Positions Sexuality and Psychological Positions Introduction to Script Analysis Summary Experiments and Exercises Beginning to Know Your Ego States Your Ego States and Feelings Analyzing a Transaction Your O Kness (fantasy) Your Sexual O Kness (fantasy) 3. The Human Hunger For Strokes And Time Structuring Stroking Hunger Positive Stroking Discounting and Negative Stroking The Hunger for Structured Time Summary Experiments and Exercises You and Touch You and Recognition You and Time Structuring Your Capacity for Intimacy 4. The Drama Of Life Scripts Scripts Cultural Scripts Subcultural Scripts Family Scripts Psychological Scripts of an Individual How Scripting Occurs Scripts with a Curse Countercsripts Roles and Themes in Life Dramas Script Themes Script Roles and Themes in Greek Mythology Script Themes in Children's Stories Summary Experiments and Exercises Cultural and Family Scripting Individual Script Nonverbal Messages In Your Script · Verbal Messages In Your Script · Role Identification · On Stage · Life Stages · Cast Of Characters 5. Parenting And The Parent Ego State The Parent Ego State Outward Expression of the Parent Ego State Inner influence of the Parent Ego State Nurturing Parent Prejudicial Parent The Incomplete Parent Ego State Reparenting Summary Experiments and Exercises Your Parents as People Money · Possessions · Crisis · Fun · Sex Roles · Family Meals · Appearance · Education · Work · Values · Speech Patterns · Listening Patterns · Script Themes And Roles · Parenting Practices Your Parent's Attitudes How Are You Like Your Parents? Your Inner Dialogue Your Parent Ego States Naikan Therapy (Japanese self-observation method) 6. Childhood And The Child Ego State The Child Ego State The Natural Child The Little Professor The Adapted Child Shifts between the Natural and Adapted Child Activating the Child Ego State Summary Experiments and Exercises Your Childhood Home Getting in Touch with Your Childhood The Child in You Now Fantasy Awareness Your Childhood Adaptations Loss of a Parent Your Little Professor You as a Natural Child 7. Personal And Sexual Identity Names and Identity Identity through Play Childhood Psychological Games and Role Identity Sexual Identity Sexual Expression Summary Experiments and Exercises Identity and Your Name Your Childhood Play Your Current Play Your Psychological Games Your Sexual Identity and Expression Your Sexual Feelings and Behavior Now 8. Stamp Collecting And Game Playing Psychological Trading Stamps The Time of Redemption The Sweatshirt Message Games Played from the Child Ego State The ""Yes, But"" Game The ""Let's You and Him Fight"" Game The ""See What You Made Me Do"" Game The ""Uproar"" Game The ""Courtroom"" Game The ""Cops and Robbers"" Game Giving Up Games Summary Experiments and Exercises Your Stamp Collection Integrating Old Feelings Inadequacy · Helplessness · Perfection · Depression · Fear · Guilt · Anxiety · Anger · Resentment · Other Feelings Tracing Old Feelings Your Sweatshirt Messages Script Check List 9. The Adult Ego State The Bash Trap Phenomenon The Adult Ego State Ego State Boundaries Lax Ego Boundaries Rigid Ego Boundaries Contamination of the Adult Boundary Lesions The Adult as Executive of the Personality Placating Your Parent Pleasing the Child Activating and Strengthening the Adult Ego State Days of Despair Summary Experiments and Exercises Deathbed Scene (fantasy) Your Last Hour (fantasy) Breaking Out of Your Bash Trap Examining Constant Parent, Constant Adult, and Constant Child Your Ego State Portrait Decontaminating Your Adult Learning from your Projections Learning from your Dreams Problem-Solving Technique 10. Autonomy And Adult Ethics Awareness Spontaneity Intimacy The Integrated Adult Adult Feelings Adult Ethics Epilogue Experiments and Exercises Your Adult Ethics Adult Questions on Your Life Footnotes And References Index"