The Forgiving Self

The Road from Resentment to Connection

Robert Karen

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Random House Inc
08 July 2003

Psychology

A fascinating book about our struggle to forgive-and how we can-from a renowned psychologist and award-winning author.

Why do we harden our hearts, even against those we want to love? Why do we find it so hard to admit being wrong? Why are the worst grudges the ones we hold against ourselves? When we nurse our resentments, Robert Karen says, we are acting from an insecure aspect of the self that harbors unresolved pain from childhood. But we also have a forgiving self which is not compliant or fake, but rather the strongest, most loving part of who we are. Through it, we are able to voice anger without doing damage, to acknowledge our own part in what has gone wrong, to see the flaws in ourselves and others as part of our humanity.

Using movies, people in the news, and sessions from his practice, Karan illuminate how we can move beyond our feelings of being wronged without betraying our legitimate anger and need for repair. The forgiving self, when we are able to locate it, brings relief from compulsive self-hatred and bitterness, and allows for a re-emergence of love.

By: Robert Karen
Imprint: Random House Inc
Country of Publication: United States
Dimensions: Height: 203mm, Width: 131mm, Spine: 17mm
Weight: 236g
ISBN: 9780385488747
ISBN 10: 0385488742
Pages: 304
Publication Date: 08 July 2003
Audience: General/trade , College/higher education , Undergraduate , ELT Advanced , Primary
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Active

ROBERT KAREN, PH.D., is an award-winning author and clinical psychologist in private practice as well as an associate clinical professor at the Derner Institute of Advanced Psychology Studies at Adelphi University. The author of Becoming Attached and The Forgiving Self, he lives in New York City.

Reviews for The Forgiving Self: The Road from Resentment to Connection

To make forgiveness interesting-to make it worth thinking about again-is the real boon of Karen's book -Adam Phillips, author of On Flirtation and Houdini's Box Tackles the core questions that have preoccupied thinkers about human behavior through the ages . . . . Fascinating and important. -Paul Wachtel, author of Pyschoanalysis & Behavior Therapy Robert Karen is one of our smartest and most accessible guides to the world of psychoanalytic theory and research. -Elle Magazine Looks through the lens of forgiveness into the heart of what can go wrong in relationships . . . gets into the guts of what it is like to feel wronged and bear grudges and to suffer with feelings that seem hateful and shameful. -Lucinda Steig, Faculty, National Institute for the Psychotherapies A deeply moving book, psychologically sophisticated, beautifully written, and personally inspiring. -Lewis Aron, Director, Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Pyschoanalysis, New York University